Should I Give Up My Baby for Adoption?

You may ask this question if you are not sure whether you are at the right place in your life to provide the home you want for your child. Some expectant birth mothers asking this question are still in school. Or, not with a partner they want as a co-parent for their child. Maybe you just need more information on what parenting in your circumstances will look like in order to know the best route for your child. It may be that you want to have a family later and will be a wonderful mother under other circumstances or when the time is right.

If you decide on adoption for your child, you may feel conflicted. It may feel right for you to choose an adoptive family ready to welcome a child, but it may not feel right to be cut off from your child. Most adoptions are “open” adoptions where you can receive information and have assurance about how your child is doing growing up. Often, the adoptive parents and the birth mother maintain an ongoing relationship over the years.  You can have input on the amount of openness you want, and it may change over time.

Here are some things to consider if you are thinking of making an adoption plan for your child:

o   Are you still working on your schooling or career?

o   Are you with someone you trust to co-parent your child with you?

o   Are you comfortable with the idea of being a single parent?

o   Are you in a difficult or unstable personal situation?

o   Do you feel like you have the support network necessary to parent?

o   Is your family complete?

Adoptions of Wisconsin can help you navigate these issues, without judgment. Choosing adoption, like choosing to parent, is a parenting decision. Deciding whether to place your child for adoption is a decision that you, as a mother, will make with your child’s best interests in mind. No matter what decision you make, you are not “giving up” on your child. Far from it. You are doing what you believe is best for them and their future.