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In On It

“In on it: What adoptive parents would like you to know about adoption” is a book written by an adoptive parent and is a book AOW highly recommends to those who are going through the adoption process. One grandma recently

Birth mother’s day

In honor of Birth Mother’s Day on May 13, 2017, we are honored to share a blog written by an AOW adoptive mom. Click the HERE to read her blog.  

Not Enough Words

            A poem written by an AOW birth mom: Not Enough Words 12/13/16 My heart stopped the first time I heard yours beat, You have no clue my love, how many struggles we over came

Where did he come from?

Kirsten and her husband adopted their first child, Owen, through Adoptions of Wisconsin almost one year ago. She blogs about her story and experiences and in this blog article, she discusses some of the questions that she has been asked. Click

Have a question about adoption? Adoptions of Wisconsin can help.

The staff of Adoptions of Wisconsin (AOW) welcomes your questions about adoption. Whether you are considering adoption for your baby, considering adoption as a means to build a family or are a friend or family member wanting to support someone

“As adoptive parents it’s easy to get caught up in “me, me, me” but we learned from you how to honor these women and their families.”

Kind words from an adoptive parent: Sitting down to write you a few words of thanks feels bittersweet. You’ve helped us know the sweetest thing, parenthood! But we feel sad at the same time, we’ve grown to feel that you

Why We Chose to Work With AOW: An Adoptive Parent’s Perspective

Deciding to adopt a child is a very personal decision to make.  Every family has their own reasons or circumstances that lead to adoption, for us it was secondary infertility. Once our decision to adopt was made, we began our

Waiting for a match: An honest answer from an adoptive mom

I was 42 and my husband 51 when we decided that adoption was the right thing for our family of two. I had always known that I wanted to adopt a child, to me it was a beautiful way to

A birth parent asks, “How do I manage the grief associated with making an adoption plan?”

The adoption process is one that intrinsically involves grief and loss.  When birth parents decide to relinquish their newborn for adoption, they will often go through a grief process not unlike what a person experiences when a loved one passes.

A birth parent asks “How often will I see my baby after the adoption?”

Adoption has changed significantly in the 10-15 years. Having a relationship with a child you place for adoption is now the norm, not the exception. Before you commit to an adoption plan you will meet with prospective adoptive parents and

A birth parent asks “How do I explain my adoption plan to my kids?”

This can be an overwhelming question for prospective birth parents. Explaining to your children that you are making an adoption plan for your newborn can be emotionally stressful. Helping you explain your adoption plan to your children is something that

A birth parent asks “What if my baby’s birth father doesn’t agree with an adoption plan? Can I make an adoption plan without telling him?”

No, before a baby can be adopted, the parental rights of both parents must be terminated. This means that the father of your baby must be informed of your plan to place the baby for adoption.  You can still work

A birth parent asks: “Can I work with an adoption agency if I’m not sure adoption is for me?

Yes. We, at Adoptions of Wisconsin (AOW), welcome you to reach out to us if you are considering adoption. Part of our role as adoption workers is to provide you with information so you are empowered to make the choice

A birth parent asks “Can I change my mind and parent my baby?”

Yes. Of course you can change your mind about making an adoption plan. Making an adoption plan for your baby is a voluntary decision and you should only do it if you feel adoption is in your best interest and/or the

What is the difference between an adoption agency and an adoption facilitator?

In Wisconsin, an adoption agency is licensed by the State of Wisconsin as a “child-placing agency” and is supervised by the Department of Children and Families (DCF) to insure the agency is adhering to all applicable rules, laws and administrative

Will I see my baby again if I make an adoption plan?

Making an adoption plan doesn’t mean that you cut all ties with your child. If you want to have an on-going relationship with your child we will help connect you with prospective adoptive parents who want the same. At Adoptions

What do I ask prospective adoptive parents when I meet them?

You’re nervous. They are nervous. Both birth parents and adoptive parents get excited and anxious about meeting for the first time. Your AOW social worker will be with you during the first meeting as a person of support for you. You

What will my AOW social worker ask me during a home study?

For AOW social workers, home study interviews are a valuable opportunity to get to know the members of our outreach program and for you to get to know us. The time spent together helps us as we work together to

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